Dear Tem Tem, A friend once said he’s usually at his happiest on his children’s birthdays. So much so that he’d walk around with a grin the whole day. He would also find himself entertaining requests he would normally take his time to consider on other days. Nothing and no one could dampen his mood…
Domestic matters are always going to be controversial. For one, everybody claims to know how things should work because they have either found a formula that works for them or have had a front-row seat to how things work.
And that’s the most admirable quality about people who know their stuff. Their self-effacing cum can-do trait. Their restrained disposition means they do not go out of their way to prove their mastery of their craft, it’s just there.
It is my unwavering belief that one of the most empowering qualities anyone can possess is the ability to move on. To soldier on and never look back wondering what could have been or spending precious time ruing the past. The thing is, no matter how intentional or deliberate you are about how you live your life, the things you say and do, the company you keep, your conduct at work and all other sundry things, you will make mistakes. Mistakes are an unavoidable part of the life of a person. A lapse in judgement will happen, however few or far between, because we are human.
You do not really know a man and what he is capable of until he is rich. No, you have little idea who a man is and what he is capable of until he has power. And no, he doesn’t have to be the wife of the number one citizen of the country who allegedly punishes a mischievous social media critic or the politician who reckons it’s beneath to mention the name of his opponent. He could be the fuel attendant manning the pump during a period of premium motor spirit scarcity or the security guy who denies you access to his boss because he perceives you to be arrogant.
As the clock winds down on the year 2022, It would be a huge travesty to not acknowledge the immense blessing the past 365 days have been to me.
To say that 2022 has been the best year of my life would be no exaggeration.
Many of the things I had prayed for and willed into existence came to fruition this year, with the birth of my daughter topping the list.
This year, I earned the title “Mum” in every way possible.
It’s been challenging, exhilarating, humbling, and transforming, all at once.
I have never been impressed by garrulous or talkative people. The foremost reason is that they do not have a filter; in the process of baring their minds all the time, they tend to say the words that should remain within. Words that are bound to hurt others and ruffle feathers when it’s unnecessary. There’s also the challenge of not giving adequate thought to one’s verbal expression when one speaks before one thinks thereby circumventing the natural course of things.
One rejection and fortuitous conversation later and I was on a journey to what I had always wanted and sought.
Over the years, however, I have come to appreciate the boundless energy that extroverts exude, the ease with which they make friends, and their never waning life-of-the-party persona.
Hot topics are a staple of our existence depending on our societal reality at a particular moment in time. The usual suspects are the ever-rising cost of goods and services occasioned by inflation, government policies (primarily unfavourable), relationships, and celebrity shenanigans, amongst other contentious issues. However, none of these juicy subjects can hold a candle…